The 65 Most Effective Ways To Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work

Many individuals think that long-distance relationships will always fail.

Many individuals think that long-distance relationships will always fail. Your family may dissuade you from doing so, and some of your closest friends may urge you not to take it too seriously for fear of breaking your heart.

Nobody promises it’ll be simple; the additional distance makes a lot of things impossible. It’s possible that things may get difficult, and you’ll feel unhappy and lonely at times.

The additional distance, on the other hand, makes the simplest things sweeter: holding each other’s hand, dining at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a stroll together, smelling each other’s hair… these little desires may suddenly mean a lot more in a long distance relationship.

Long-distance relationships may be challenging, but they can also be full of surprises. Here are 25 ideas for making your long distance relationship work to keep your love alive and strong:

1. Keep contact to a minimum.

Being excessively “sticky” and possessive is not a good idea. You don’t need to talk for 12 hours a day to keep your relationship going. Many couples believe that doing more will compensate for the distance. This isn’t correct. And it’s possible that it’ll make things worse. You’d get bored of “loving” in no time.

Keep in mind that little is more. It’s not about spamming; you’ll only tire yourself that way. It’s all about teasing and pulling at the correct times and in the right places.

2. Look at it as a chance.

“Before you can live together, you must first learn to live apart.” – Unidentified

Consider it a learning experience for both of you. Consider it a test of your love for one another. “Real gold is not frightened of the test of fire,” as the Chinese proverb says. Instead of believing that your long-distance relationship is driving you apart, you should trust that this experience will strengthen your bond even more.

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3. Establish some ground rules to keep your expectations in check.

During this long-distance relationship, both of you must be clear about what you expect of one other. Set some ground rules so that neither of you will do something that will surprise the other.

Are you two, for example, exclusive? Is it okay if the other person goes on dates with you? What is your degree of commitment? It’s preferable to be honest with one another about all of these issues.

4. Make an effort to communicate on a frequent basis and in a creative manner.

Every day, greet each other with a “good morning” and “good night” greeting. Additionally, strive to keep your spouse up to speed on your life and events, no matter how boring some of them may appear.

Send each other photos, audio snippets, and short movies from time to time to raise the ante. You make the other person feel liked and cared for when you put forth this sort of effort.

5. Make filthy jokes at each other.

One of the most essential aspects of a relationship is sexual tension. Sexual desire acts as a glue that holds both people together and prevents them from drifting away. Not only is sex a biological need, but it is also an emotional one.

Send each other enticing messages packed with sexual innuendos and suggestive descriptions to keep the fires blazing. Sexy jokes are also effective.

6. Stay away from “risk” circumstances.

If you already know that going to the club or drinking late at night with your pals would annoy your spouse, you should either 1. not do it or 2. tell him/her ahead of time to reassure him/her.

Don’t take this lightly since you’re placing your spouse in a situation where he or she feels helpless or in control, which will only make him or her more concerned or suspicious, and, of course, extremely unhappy.

It may also be simple for you to slip into the trap that you create for yourself by “hanging out” with your workplace eye-candy after work, or going out with a lady or man from your past who has been flirting with you, whether consciously or subconsciously. Before you join the scenario, you must first identify the risks.

Don’t simply follow your heart’s lead. Pay attention to your thoughts as well.

7. Collaborate on projects.

Play an online game with your friends. Simultaneously, watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo. On Skype, sing to each other as one of you plays the guitar. “Go for a stroll together” while video-calling each other outdoors. Go online shopping with each other and purchase presents for each other.

8. Repeat the process.

Recommend books, TV programs, movies, music, current events, and other items to one another. When you read, watch, and listen to the same things, you have more common ground to discuss.

Even if you live apart, this is a wonderful way to establish some shared experiences.

9. Pay each other visits.

Every long-distance relationship revolves on visits.

You finally get to see one other after all the waiting, longing, and abstinence to fulfill all the small things like kissing, holding hands, and so on, which are all common to other couples but particularly meaningful and personal for individuals in long distance relationships.

Fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows, and butterflies will be thrown everywhere.

10. Set a goal for yourself.

“At the end of the day, what do we want to accomplish?” “How long do you think we’ll be apart?” “How do you feel about the future?” These are the questions you and your partner should be asking.

The reality is that no pair can maintain a long-distance relationship indefinitely. We’ll all have to settle down at some point.

So create a plan with your friends. Make a timeline with the estimated times apart and times together, as well as a final objective.

It’s critical that you and your partner be on the same page and have the same objectives. So that, even if you don’t share the same area or timezone, you’re both driven to work together in the same direction toward a future that involves both of you.

Yes, you must be motivated in order for a relationship to endure. Here’s where you can learn more about what drives you.

11. Take use of your alone time as well as your time with friends and family.

You may be alone, but you are not lonely until you want to be. You don’t have to allow your partner’s life revolve around him or her; you still have yourself, your friends, and your family. Take advantage of this opportunity to spend more time with your friends and family. Make it a habit to go to the gym on a regular basis. Find a new pastime. Binge-watch your favorite programs. There are lots of activities you can do that do not need your partner’s participation.

12. Be truthful to one another.

Talk about your fears, insecurities, jealousy, indifference, and anything else is on your mind. If you attempt to keep a secret from your spouse, it will eventually consume you from the inside out. Don’t attempt to handle everything on your own. Communicate with one other in an open and honest manner. Allow your spouse to assist you and provide you with the support you need. It’s preferable to address an issue while it’s still in its early stages than to wait until it’s too late.

13. Be familiar with each other’s schedules.

Knowing when the other person is busy and when he or she is available is useful so you can send a text or call at the appropriate moment. You don’t want to wake up your spouse in the midst of a lesson or in the middle of a work meeting. Know about the little and major events in each other’s lives, such as college midterms and examinations, crucial business trips and meetings, job interviews, and so on. This is particularly important if you and your partner live in separate time zones.

14. Monitor each other’s social media activity.

On Facebook and Instagram, they like each other’s pictures. Send each other tweets. Tag one another. Exchange items for each other’s walls. Demonstrate your concern. Keep your stalking to a minimum.

15. Give the other individual a sentimental item to keep.

A memento has a lot of power. Whether it’s a tiny pendant, a ring, a keychain, a collection of music and movies, or a bottle of perfume, there’s something for everyone. We frequently ascribe significance to little objects and stuff in our daily lives, whether consciously or unconsciously. This is what we all do: we attempt to store memories in tangible objects in the hopes of being able to gaze at or hold on to something that will help us recall when our minds fail us. This is why something so basic may mean so much to someone, even if it is of little or no value to others.

16. Invest in a decent messaging application.

This is critical since texting is the most regular and frequent mode of contact between you two. On mobile phones, you’ll need a decent messaging software that allows for more than simply text and emojis.

LINE is a chat program that I use personally. It’s extremely successful in my opinion since it offers a large library of entertaining and very humorous “stickers” that users may use for free. You may also go to the app’s “Sticker Shop” to get additional stickers of various themes (e.g., Hello Kitty, Pokemon, Snoopy, MARVEL, and so on) for a cheap fee. The app also offers out free sticker sets for certain campaigns from time to time. This texting software is adorable and simple to use.

17. Send your gift through snail mail.

Send each other postcards and handwritten love notes to express your feelings for one another. From time to time, we exchange presents with one other all over the world. Birthdays, anniversaries, and Valentine’s Day are all occasions when flowers are sent. Shop online and surprise each other with stylish T-shirts, seductive underwear, and other such items as you like.

18. Maintain an optimistic attitude.

Long distance relationships need regular infusions of good energy from both partners in order to survive. Yes, the waiting may be difficult, and you may feel lonely at times, but you must remember yourself that the fruits of your labor will be as delicious as paradise when they are finally harvested.

One effective strategy for maintaining a happy attitude is to be thankful all of the time. Take pleasure in the fact that you have someone to adore – someone who loves you in return. Recognize and appreciate the little things in life, such as the handwritten note that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Gratitude for one another’s health and safety is appropriate.

19. Keep each other informed on the friends and family members of the other.

Because gossip and scandals are usually the most interesting topics to talk about for hours on end.

20. Use video conferencing whenever feasible.

We do this because gazing into one other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices may help us to feel better about ourselves again.

21. Give each other pet names that are meaningful to them.

For the simple reason that it is adorable. It helps to maintain the romantic atmosphere.

Take a Few Photographs
You already know we’re going to caution you against sending indecent pictures, so don’t send anything that shows too much flesh. Something provocative but not too revealing is definitely your best option. Alternatively, you might keep it G-rated by just emailing your S.O. pictures of stuff you’re up to (an innovative meal at a new restaurant, a snap of you and your friends on wine night).

22.Start a Countdown Countdown for Your Reunion 

There isn’t much better than having a continuous reminder of when you’ll eventually be reunited with your significant other. You may personalize everything about a countdown app, including whether or not the countdown appears on your home screen, by downloading it for free from the App Store.

23.Become more competitive by playing online games.

Despite the fact that you aren’t in the same room, it does not preclude you from competing against one another in a game. Websites such as Pogo and Yahoo provide free multiplayer alternatives, allowing you to interact with others via a little friendly rivalry.

24.Start a Book Club with your friends.

Many factors make living in two separate locations difficult, the most significant of which is that you must explain a great deal about what is happening in each location (the subway was so slow today, this friend is going through a breakup, etc.). No matter whether you like nonfiction or the newest mystery thriller, you’ll always have something in common to chat about if you’re both reading the same book at the same time.

25.Take a vacation without leaving your computer.

You may not be able to afford to take a physical trip, but choose a fascinating location on your bucket list to visit digitally as a couple instead. Take a look at Qantas’ amazing virtual reality app to learn more about Australia if you’ve always wanted to visit the land down under.

26.Send a round of drinks to your significant other.

Are you aware of where your spouse will be meeting their pals for drinks this evening? Make an appearance in the bar and it will seem as if you are there in spirit (plus, you’ll get some brownie points with the staff as a result of your appearance).

27.Surprise Them With a Surprise Visit

In general, the fewer individuals who know about the secret, the less likely it is that it will be revealed. Of course, planned vacations are wonderful, but a trip that comes as a surprise is much better (especially when your partner is having a rough week or has something big to celebrate).

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Who says you can’t cook with your friends? It may be difficult for your spouse to envision the meal you’ve created without having it in front of him or her. So choose one dinner a month that you and your partner will prepare together, and then take the time to discuss any potential changes and wine pairings you may like to attempt.

28.Create a Special Playlist for yourself.

Mixtapes were effective for wooing in high school, and a personalized Spotify mix may accomplish the same goal now. Create a playlist that includes some of your partner’s favorite songs, some songs that remind you of your relationship, and a few new songs you want them to hear.

29.Create a Pinterest account for your group.

Following the creation of your combined Pinterest account, create several boards with topics such as “fun date ideas,” “travel bucket lists,” and other similar topics. If you use the Pinterest mobile application, you can remain in contact while on the move.

30.Send them on a Scavenger Hunt to keep them entertained

Yes, you will need the assistance of a willing buddy who lives in their neighborhood, but how adorable is it to set your spouse to work on a scavenger hunt? Make them snap photos and email them to you as evidence so that you may participate in the festivities. PS: Don’t forget to think of something to give away at the end.

31.Be your own person.

Take care of yourself as much as you take care of your significant other when you are in a good long-distance relationship (or any relationship, for that matter). Utilize your time apart by engaging in activities you like, whether it’s spending time with family and friends, learning a new hobby, or establishing a new fitness regiment.

32.Send a Care Package to Someone You Love Simply for the sake of it

Send your partner a thoughtful gift in the mail for no other purpose than to show them how much you value their friendship. Pack a package full of their favorite things or objects that bring back fond memories of them and send it to them through the mail.

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The smell of your significant other’s distinctive perfume or cologne may be a great source of comfort, so why not exchange your favorite fragrances and colognes? You’ll be able to get a whiff of each other’s fragrance whenever you find yourself missing one another.

33.Make a digital photo album that everyone can see.

With the help of smartphones, you may quickly and simply exchange pictures with your long-distance partner with the touch of a single button. To share pictures with others, create a shared album on your phone and add photos for others to view.

34.When it comes to special occasions, go all out.

In the event that you’re forced to spend your birthdays or other holidays apart, make every effort to make them as memorable as possible, even if you’re not physically there. Make a note of key dates on your calendar so that you don’t forget anything essential.

35.Keep a joint journal with your partner.

Purchase a diary and take turns writing down your ideas, observations, and emotions, then sending the notebook back and forth between you two friends. A beautiful and personal gesture, it will bring you and your significant other closer than you have ever been before in your lives.

36.Make Phone Calls to One Another

Whenever possible, phone rather than text if you have a short inquiry or a tale to share with someone else. The mere act of hearing each other’s voices will assist to reduce the physical gap between you and your partner.

37.Make Preparations

Spend time talking over the phone, establishing concrete plans for when you’ll see each other next and what your lives will look like once you’re back in the same place. Even when you’re not in a long-distance relationship, it’s nice to have something to look forward to once in awhile.

38.Create a story about your love.

You and your significant other may co-write the narrative of your love together, whether it’s done by hand or via Google Docs, for a lovely project that you can both enjoy. Detail how you first met, how you felt in the early days, and any experiences you’ve shared along the road to make your story compelling.

39.Send Flowers

Sending flowers is a little but meaningful gesture that may make a big difference. Order a bouquet from a local flower shop or place an order with an online florist such as Bouqs to have a lovely surprise delivered to their home or place of business.

40.Make a plan for a virtual date night.

You can have a date night no matter where you are because to technologies such as FaceTime and Zoom. Choose a time and day, then prepare supper while also opening a bottle of wine at the same time. When it comes time to call it a night, saying goodbye will be the most difficult part.

Despite the fact that it may seem childish, a flirtatious game of 20 questions is a wonderful method to reconnect with a loved one who you haven’t had the opportunity to see in a while. You may make it light and entertaining or profound and serious.

41.Make a list of things to do for each other.

Writing basic to-do lists for each other, in a manner similar to a treasure hunt (but maybe less severe), is a smart approach for you and your spouse to feel more connected to one another. Think of enjoyable activities that are unique to their area, or even jot down little ideas that you know they would like and pass them along to them. You might tell them to go have some ice cream, contact their parents, or visit a museum in their town, for example.

42.Sending Voice Memos is a great way to stay organized.

Take the time to record romantic notes on your phone that you may send to your significant other every now and then. “I love you,” or reciting a poem, are examples of expressions that may be basic or complicated. It doesn’t matter which route you go, your significant other will enjoy being able to hear your voice anytime they need it and vice versa.

43.Take them out to a nice dinner.

With the help of apps such as Doordash, Postmates, and Uber Eats, it’s simple to deliver a special dinner to your long-distance spouse when you know they’ve had a difficult day.

44.Set Reminders 

You’re aware that your spouse has an important job interview coming up? You may set a reminder on your phone to send them a good luck SMS the morning of the event. Remember that their mother’s birthday is coming up next week? You may send her a notice to wish her a happy birthday.

45.Get Jewelry 

When you and your partner wear matching bracelets, rings, or necklaces, you will be reminded of each other every time you look at them. Take it a step further and have the pieces engraved with your initials or a significant date to keep them forever.

46.Funny e-cards may be sent to friends and family.

Sending a humorous e-card to your significant other may serve as a playful reminder of your affection. It’s a little gesture, but it helps to put a smile on their face.

47.Sing along to Karaoke music

With a little assistance from the internet, you can bring the karaoke bar to you. Use a camera or your smartphone to listen to each other sing, make fun of one other, or even perform a duet together on an online karaoke website. It’s an unusual method to spend a night together even when you’re separated by a long distance.

48. Preparing Cookies

Prepare handmade cookies (or any other goodie that your spouse like) and deliver them to your partner through postal service. The only thing better than home-baked goodies is home-baked goods from someone you care about and admire.

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Even if you’re far away, write down your thoughts.

49.Feelings Should Be Written Down

Long-distance couples, like any other, may have differences of opinion. In the event that you and your S.O. are fighting but are unable to communicate in person, consider writing down your emotions so that both of you can remain calm when you are able to speak on the phone.

50.Make a ring tone that is uniquely yours..

Create a personalized ring tone for your spouse so that you will always know when they are contacting you.. It may be their favorite music, or it could be a song that has particular significance for the two of you as you dance together.

51.Have some fun together by taking a wacky online quiz.

You may find hundreds of couples and long-distance relationship tests on the internet if you do a simple search on the phrase “compatibility.” Most aren’t particularly scientific or even correct, but they’re a fun pastime that you can perform with your partner even if you’re not physically there in the same room.

52.Spent some quality time with your significant other’s family and close friends.

Consider scheduling time to visit with your partner’s friends and family, even if your S.O. can’t join you in person. The fact that you spent time with their favorite individuals will be much appreciated by your friends and family.

53.Poems should be written

Put your emotions into words and compose a poem for your long-distance love as a challenge for yourself. You may either mail it or read it aloud over a Skype or FaceTime chat after you’ve completed it.

54.Educate one another on a topic

Whether it’s learning a new instrument or learning a foreign language, you and your spouse may both make a commitment to attending courses in person or over the Internet. After each session, speak about what you learned and practice your new abilities with a friend over the phone or through video conference call.

56.Photo Albums Should Be Created

Certainly, digital shared albums are convenient and instantaneous, but an old-fashioned picture book is a meaningful way to express your affection while also reminiscing about moments spent together.

57.Establish objectives 

This time apart may be used to motivate you to achieve the objectives you have set for yourself. Until you’re reunited with your partner, you might, for example, pledge to abstain from drinking in the sake of your health, or you could challenge both of you to work out three times a week until you next see each other. Regardless of your goals, find a method to accomplish them as a group.

58.Always keep an eye on their local time.

If you and your significant other do not reside in the same time zone, invest in a dual time zone watch or even an app on your phone to ensure that you are constantly aware of what time it is in their location.

59.Experiment with one of your partner’s favorite recreational pursuits.

Spend a day letting them try out one of their favorite hobbies, whether it is cooking, basketball, or painting. Even if their pastime isn’t exactly your cup of tea, you’ll feel closer to them.

60.Travel Plans Should Be Made

Why is it necessary for your reunion to take place in the city where one of you resides? Make plans to meet up in a different location and arrange a vacation instead. Choose a nearby town or a far-off nation that neither of you has ever been before, buy airline tickets and a hotel, and take a well-deserved holiday for the two of you to unwind.

61. Extend your gratitude by sending little notes of thanks.

Text messages or handwritten letters are both acceptable methods of communication. Giving your spouse precise reasons why you admire them, even if they’re thousands of miles away, is a lovely gesture in any situation.

62.Be Sincere in Your Expressions.

To be honest with each other about how difficult it is for you to be apart is OK. In order to maintain a healthy long-distance relationship, it’s critical to communicate often and be honest about how you’re feeling, especially when it’s bad. Sharing these tough feelings can only help both of you in the long run, and chances are you’re both feeling the same way at this point in your relationship.

63.Let us know about your daily accomplishments!

Share the highlights of your day with your significant other when you’re able to speak on the phone or video chat. No matter whether you delivered a flawless presentation at work or ran into an old buddy, they’ll be delighted to hear about your highlights of the day. If you were in person with each other, share just as you would if you were online.

64.Use Your Time Together to the Fullest Extent

After a long separation, make the most of your time together by taking a cooking class or taking salsa dance lessons together. Put yourself out there and create moments that you’ll treasure when you’re apart again.

65.Support One Another Long-distance relationships are difficult

 and no amount of technology or care packages can compensate for the lack of face-to-face contact. Therefore, it is critical to stay helpful and reassuring to one another while coping with what will undoubtedly be a trying period. Make sure to keep the lines of communication open, and remember that a good, honest relationship can withstand almost anything.