Yes, children may recover if they get the proper assistance and understanding.
It is critical to understand that not all children who have experienced sexual trauma react in the same manner to their experiences.
Children are resilient by nature and have the ability to mend and recover if they are provided the appropriate assistance and care in a timely manner. The way you react to your kid may have a significant effect on his or her ability to heal after being abused.
By taking certain important actions early on, you may assist to build your child’s trust, feeling of security, and ability to recover. There will be lasting effects on the lives of children who have been sexually assaulted, but as with other kinds of traumatic experiences, there are many instances of people who have recovered from childhood abuse and are now leading healthy and productive lives in their adulthood.
While children are aware of unpleasant or scary emotions, it is possible that they may not have a complete understanding of child sexual abuse until they reach adulthood. Some children may be ready to speak about and cope with abuse as soon as it occurs, while others may not be. It is possible that some people may need a more measured approach, progressively evaluating the safety of their relationships and addressing the problems as they arise over time.
In order for children to thrive, they need a mix of love from their caregivers as well as the assistance of a counselor who has specialized training in dealing with children who have suffered sexual trauma.
As a parent, you have the ability to assist your children.
You may help your kid by expressing your love for them, soothing them, and being attentive to their emotions and weaknesses. These are all essential methods to assist your child. Tell your kid on a regular basis how much you care about them. There are also some particular things you can do to assist your kid in the healing process, which are detailed below.
What you can do to assist your kid in his or her recovery.
Inform your kid that he or she is not to fault for the exploitation.
Children are never, ever to blame, but convincing them of this is not always simple, and they will most likely need to hear it from you many times before they will believe it. This is due to the fact that youngsters often believe that they are to responsible for what has occurred.
They have a tendency to hold themselves accountable not just for the actual abuse, but also for inflicting anguish to others close to them after the abuse has been discovered. This is particularly true if the abuse has caused family members to split as a consequence of their experiences.
In addition, children are forced to carry an unbearable and unjust weight of guilt as a result of the abuse and the repercussions of it. These children are more prone than other children to experience more severe and long-term emotional consequences if they do not get care.
Help your kid find comfort from their feelings of shame by intervening.
When adults accept responsibility for what has occurred, it allows children to experience a sense of release from their guilt. By telling your kid that they are not to fault for the abuse and that it was the older person’s duty to stop it, you may make a significant contribution to his or her healing.
To stress that any changes brought about by the abuse are due to the abuser’s actions – and not to anything the kid did or did not do – you might say that the abuser is to blame for any changes.
The child-centered manner in which young children make sense of the world around them results in their placing themselves as the “cause” of much of what they encounter. This is a normal response. Because of this developmental propensity to assume responsibility for situations over which they have little control (e.g., poor weather, parental disagreements, financial difficulties), this lesson may need to be repeated many times and in various formats.
Make certain that your kid understands that you believe them.
The act of abuse was a violation of your child’s trust on a deep level. More than ever, your kid needs assurance that you believe in them, that they can rely on you, and that they can rely on you alone.
You will be assisting your kid in re-establishing a feeling of trust and safety by recognizing the damage that has been done to them, seeking assistance for them, and taking measures to safeguard them.
Make it clear to your kid that you are someone with whom they may communicate.
If your kid has been abused, provide chances for discussion, but allow your child to initiate the topic on his or her own initiative. If they do, pay close attention to what they’re saying, allow them to express themselves, answer their questions as best you can, and soothe them.
It is common for parents to believe that discussing abuse with their children would cause them additional grief or “simply make things worse.” They must understand that there is a loving parent or adult with whom they may be honest, and who will recognize and accept their sorrow and emotions in turn.
Make it clear to your kid that you will do all in your power to keep them safe.
Especially if you’re not confident in your ability to protect them, this may be very difficult. Make certain that your kid understands that you are dedicated and motivated to do whatever measures are necessary to safeguard them, without making false promises. Children learn that they are worth protecting when they see loving adults recognizing abuse and taking measures to act on their behalf.
Support your kid by ensuring that they get therapy.
Keep an eye on your kid to see if they are displaying any symptoms of emotional discomfort. It is recommended that you bring your kid to an expert who can provide them with a secure environment in which to express themselves as well as provide you with some advice and support to assist your child in recovering from their distressing emotions or actions.