Can you be everything to everyone?
This article may seem to be a significant deviation from the rest of the story’s content, but trust me when I say that the two concepts can and do coexist.
You can’t please everyone all of the time. What is your favorite dish to eat? Even if you believe it’s the finest thing ever, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.
And, like food, you won’t be intrinsically beautiful to 100 percent of the women on the planet, even if you are objectively everything a woman could want.
It’s not as simple as following steps A, B, and C to avoid the Friendzone.
The Friendzone occurs in certain circumstances because it is required. Why? The ladies you’re interested in are either not physically attracted to you or fear they’ll never be able to date you.
Hey, that happens all the time.
You could think this lady is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but when she looks at you, she doesn’t see anything to entice her. Other men are just unappealing to certain women, and some individuals are simply not compatible.
You don’t want to date some women who are objectively gorgeous, either.
Does this rule out the possibility of someone falling in love with you or finding something important in you? Certainly not. Individuals are drawn to various physical body combinations in the same way that some people are drawn to Diet Coke and others to Pepsi. Baseball, football, and golf are all popular pastimes for certain individuals.
There is no sexual attraction or chemistry.
Even if you seem appealing to a large number of people, there’s no assurance that the person you’re drawn to will find you beautiful as well. It just doesn’t always work out that way; everyone of us has our own preferences.
However, there must be sexual chemistry; else, you will remain platonic pals.
You have some control over some of this. You can improve your physical appearance, groom yourself better, and work to make yourself more objectively appealing.
However, keep in mind that people’s preferences and viewpoints differ, so part of this is beyond your control, even if you do all you can to avoid the Friendzone.
Other women’s roles in the story.
It isn’t necessary to be dead in the water if there isn’t an instant physical appeal.
It’s possible that the lady you’re interested in has tunnel vision in many circumstances.
Maybe she’s always been drawn to men who resemble Johnny Depp.
But you have the appearance of Brad Pitt, so it’s a difficult shift for her. Johnny Depp has always been her definition of attractiveness.
Now, if she has a girlfriend who thinks you’re incredibly attractive and tells her so, the scales may come off her eyes. She might realize that there are many different ways to define hot, and Johnny Depp is just one of them.
This is one technique for males to get over a lack of sexual chemistry or desire at first. Obviously, you must be appealing to other ladies in the vicinity of the woman you are interested in.
This isn’t always simple. In reality, the majority of the time, it is extremely challenging. You may be able to overcome the first lack of sexual chemistry or attraction if you can attract other ladies around the genuine focus of your passion. It just communicates to her that you are valuable and wanted by other women – why shouldn’t she want you as well?
Put in the effort.
If you’ve been Friendzoned too many times, it might be because of your attractiveness. As the old adage goes, “what goes around comes around.” “If you’re thrown out of a bar, it’s almost always the fault of the bartender. It’s probably your fault if you get tossed out of a hundred bars.” “
It’s definitely you if you’re being tossed into the Friendzone by a slew of different women who look nothing like one other, come from all over the world, and come from all walks of life.
You should take a long, hard look in the mirror. Do you really deserve the ladies you seek, and are you the sort of guy they would want?
Do you have Seth Rogen’s body?
Then it’s time to go to the gym. Do you have the appearance of a young and broke Jim Carrey? After that, you must focus on your clothes, fitness, hygiene, and style.
The good news is that physical attractiveness is something that can be improved.
If you are too thin, you may follow a diet that will help you gain weight. If you are overweight, you should begin going to the gym more often to shed those unwanted pounds. There are a plethora of ways to improve your look. What matters is that you adjust your look in the proper manner.
This is something that a lot of males overlook. They believe that appearing well in terms of sexual appeal is equivalent to going to a shop and purchasing a product off the shelf.
You must adjust your thinking if you want to change your look. Guess what? If you want to lose weight, you can. You must change your mindset and quit thinking like a fat person.
You start going to the gym more often. You begin to eat more healthily. It everything flows together.
The same analysis may be applied to your clothing, fitness level, cleanliness, and style.
Nobody except you is going to look after you. Except for yourself, no one will adore you. Nobody is going to help you with it. As a result, acquire the proper mentality to properly care for oneself.
The Friendzone isn’t necessarily a bad place to hang out.
The best friendships you’ll ever have are sometimes formed precisely because you’ve agreed that there would be no future romance or sexual tension between you. Have you ever wondered why women like homosexual men? This is the reason. They gain from being near guys, being touched by men, and receiving attention from men, but in a secure and non-threatening environment that enables them to really open up.